I am a patriarch. I am the head of my
family. Many do not understand what it means to be a patriarch, there
are so many misconceptions. I am a patriarch; let me share with you
what this means.
As patriarch, I am the head of my
family. I must ensure the needs and provisions for my family and
household. I carry the weight of my family upon my shoulders. While
each of us has our roles and obligations, my job is to make sure all
under my care can do what they need to do, to assist them each in their
tasks and to finish off anything that gets left undone for whatever
As patriarch, I may be the final
authority, true, but this also means that I have final responsibility.
When I make decisions, I must not only take into account the needs and
desires of all my family, I must place them first before my own. Heaven
has placed others into my care and has charged me to look after them as
Heaven looks after me. I will therefore take care of all their needs,
physical and emotional, providing for them as best as I can. Heaven, in
turn will look after me.
As patriarch, I have the responsibility
to make final decisions. For this, I require wisdom. True, Heaven
grants man wisdom, especially when he has others under his care. Yet,
the patriarch recognizes that the wisdom of Heaven has a special way to
it. A patriarch has a sure source of Heavenly wisdom; it flows from his
wife. Every true patriarch knows that although he is the brains of the
operation, this is only so because of the strong good woman who stands
by his side and guides his heart.
As patriarch, I must listen and weigh
carefully what I hear. I cannot dictate, expecting others to blindly
obey, for every patriarch knows this is the way of war; good for an
army, but bad for a family. As patriarch, I make peace; I seek
compromise and do whatever is necessary to maintain harmony within my
household. I do not yell, I do not bully; I have only to speak with
wisdom and authority and I am heard. The wisdom of what I speak is
apparent to all; therefore, we have agreement of purpose and find a way
to agree in action. If I cannot create agreement, then maybe I am not
being appropriately wise, maybe I need to rethink what it is I am
As patriarch, I must know with wisdom
when to be strict and when to be lenient. I direct my household with
incredible wisdom, patience and kindness. In order to rule over my
house, I must serve. I have found this wisdom the greatest of all.
Successful masters know that true mastery lies in serving, not being
served. There can be no successful service without wisdom, patience and
kindness. Therefore, in order to rule, the patriarch does not rise up
to the top, on the contrary he descends to the very bottom and lifts
everything up onto his shoulders.
As patriarch, I am guided by Heaven to
carry the burden of my household upon my shoulders, quietly, patiently
and without complaint. Only a man with strong broad shoulders can carry
his household. Only a strong man can toil in silence; only a mighty man
can succeed in being a true patriarch.
This then is the secret, in order for a
man to be a true man, he must become a patriarch. He must embrace the
character of Heaven. A true man lives to fulfill his obligations and
responsibilities. He does not look away to follow dreams, instead he
lives in reality. The true man recognizes the needs of his family and
selflessly works to fulfill them. A true man feels what others feel,
but cannot allow himself the luxury to be swayed by feelings. He must
do what needs to be done.
From the beginning, Heaven has ordained
for man to marry and have a family. In having a family, a man most
emulates Heaven; for we are all the family of Heaven. When a man
provides for others as Heaven provides for us, he has become a
patriarch, molded in Supernal Image of the Heavenly Father.