Which is better, to
confront a wrongdoing, or let it go unchallenged? Which is better, to
confront one who selfishly hurts others or to ignore the behavior and
move on? Which is better, to speak out or shut up? In order to answer
these questions, let me first ask you some more…
Do you want to change what
is bad and make it better? Do you want what hurts to stop hurting? Do
you want to heal that which is sick? Do you or do you not want a better
world? If you answered no to any of these questions, then we have
nothing further to share. You are part of the problem and not part of
If you have answered yes
to all the above questions, then we have more to learn and to do. Just
remember, it is not the learning that is essential, it is the doing that
How do you expect what is
bad to be made good if you are not willing to do it yourself? How
expect what hurts you to stop hurting unless you take personal action to
ease your own pain? How do you expect to recover from your own illness
unless you personally follow a course of required healing? How do you
ever expect the world to become a better place unless you contribute to
making it so?
It is all too easy to sit
back and complain how bad things are and how poorly people behave and at
the same time do nothing to help correct the problems. For it is when
we sit back and do nothing that problems persists and even get worse.
It is only when we make
the efforts to pursue what is often uncomfortable and unpopular
confrontation that we bring to public attention a wrong that needs to be
addressed. Unless the individual is willing to stand out from the crowd
and be different, to be outspoken, to complain and yes, to confront,
nothing will ever change; nothing will ever get better.
Sometimes it is right to
yell; sometimes it is right to confront another directly to their face
and demand their response. Although this may lead to some heated
exchanges, sometimes such exchanges are necessary and the right thing to
Today, most people are
afraid of confrontation. Most people do not like to fight. This is too
bad. For those who shy away from necessary confrontation and a
justified fight are sure to be beaten. Freedom and what is right only
survive because of those willing to fight for them.
Therefore, when you
witness a wrongdoing, you should be aroused to indignation and motivated
with passion to yell, scream and do whatever is necessary to bring
attention to the issue.
When you witness someone’s
selfish behavior that is hurting another, you should indeed confront the
person on the spot, in that place and at that moment. Challenge their
selfishness, expose them, and embarrass them if you must. Believe me
this is a good thing to do, one that is blessed by Heaven.
Make the selfish party
face their selfishness and respond. Let them choose publicly, right
then and there to behave either as unselfish human beings or like
selfish animals. Let them and everyone else around witness the choice
that they make.
We must learn to
confront. We must learn to challenge. We must learn to fight, not with
fists or bloodshed, but rather with confrontation and admonition. Only
when we confront that which is wrong can we create the opportunity to
make it right. Only when we speak out and expose hypocrisy and demand
change can we ever expect change to come.
If we do not do it, who
will? Do not wait for Heaven to act; Heaven is waiting for us.